Nearer, My God, to Thee

Public domain. Many people know it only from the Titanic, which may or may not help.

Sarah Flower Adams, an English poet and Unitarian hymn writer, wrote the words at her home in Loughton, Essex, in 1841, retelling the story of Jacob’s dream of a ladder to heaven. It is known as the hymn some survivors said the band on the RMS Titanic played as the ship sank, and as the hymn sung on the SS Valencia as it sank off the Canadian coast in 1906.

Even if it is a cross that raises me, the singer says, my song will still be: nearer, my God, to thee. Like Jacob sleeping on a stone in the dark, the singer finds steps up to heaven, and even sorrow becomes a way of getting closer to God. The last verse looks to the end of life and beyond, still singing the same line. It is about drawing close to God through hardship rather than around it.

Solemn and old. Expect the Titanic association in at least one head. Read at a funeral or memorial service. Themes: traditional · the Titanic · an older congregation · solemn.

A traditional funeral and an older congregation, and someone whose faith grew through suffering. It suits families with seafaring connections and those who know it from old services. Many people know it only from the Titanic, which may help some and distract others, so ask the family how they feel about that association.

In the middle of the service or as a closing hymn before the committal. The congregation sings, often with organ; it can also be played by a band or brass ensemble.

Sung through by the room, allow about 4 minutes, depending on how many verses the venue’s book carries and how slowly the organist takes it.

• Choose verses with the family; the hymn is often shortened.
• It is solemn and slow. Ask the musician to lead clearly so the room does not drag.
• Do not mention the Titanic unless the family want you to. Some guests will think of it anyway.
• After it ends, wait a moment before you speak.

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